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These dozen excerpts are a sampling of Dr. Cytowic’s essays on dating and romance from MW Magazine under the title “The Love Doctor.”

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Are You Cute?

IN THE DAYS WHEN SALESMEN knocked door-to-door, housewives knew exactly what to do. They either let the guy in or blew him off. The brush off was, “No thanks, I’m not buying anything today.” That standard phrase was the salesman’s … Continue reading

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Love me Now!

IN THE MOVIE “Carrington,” Ralph Partridge speaks of trying to possess the heroine and “make her his property, absolutely.” I think not. Predictably, Partridge doesn’t succeed. He’s understandably smitten and wants Carrington to respond in kind. Trouble is, she won’t … Continue reading

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Lie Back and Weep

IN TIMES OF DIFFICULTY, people often need either a good cry or a good fucking. Though it doesn’t seem so at first, each is an instance of love. Indeed, one of my oldest aphorisms observes that everything is either an … Continue reading

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Rejection Is . . .

A SHY ACQUAINTANCE we’ll call Jack recounted how awful he used to feel from instant rejection. As a late bloomer, he felt doubly vulnerable given his little experience in chatting up those he found attractive. No sooner would he say, … Continue reading

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No Escape

LONDON—TRAVELING WITH YOUR BELOVED is fun and loaded with opportunity for argument. Where togetherness at home is treasured as intimacy, close quarters while traveling make a crucible that heats stylistic differences to their flashpoints. Away from your routine and with … Continue reading

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Arithmetic of Love

DURING A RECENT VISIT to Vancouver I came across an AIDS quilt panel that bore, as part of its embroidered farewell, the following equations: 1 + 1 > 2 2 – 1 < 0 I wept. Anyone who has been … Continue reading

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Alone at Last

AS WINSTON CHURCHILL SAID to his beloved Clementine, “We are going to have a successful marriage, my dear, provided we never see one another before lunch.” Those who would remain together should schedule time apart. Though sometimes lovers seem unable … Continue reading

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Time to Fall

TWO ENDURING QUESTIONS among love’s many mysteries are (1) Why we fall in love when we do, and (2) Why we pick whom we do. We don’t just fall in love with anybody, any time. Rather, life has moments when … Continue reading

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Strangers and Friends

THERE IS NO ESCAPING the fact that a stranger is someone you know nothing about. It is easy to mistake strangers for friends. You may think you know scores of people from the bars or the gym, but they are … Continue reading

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Broken Hearts

LOVE IS SELDOM ENDLESS and never perfect. Thwarted love creates a great deal of pain, and inconsolable longing can be Hell on earth when our attention is unrequited. The devastation felt when love fails shows how much esteem is at … Continue reading

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Terms of Endearment

ARE THE TWO OF YOU DATING? can sometimes be an impossible question. Whether you’re newly met or a longtime couple, terms of endearment can be a source of friction. What to call those who are less than blood relations yet … Continue reading

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How to Flirt

Flirting is wonderful: it’s free, won’t expand your waistline, and ranks close to Prozac as a tonic for general mental health. Continue reading

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